Clearly There Must be a Better Way to Divide your Time

When it comes to “When” (if ever), there is surely no definitive answer. Sadly the only suggestion I have is to regurgitate the line you would expect, and say “when it is right, you will know it.”  Weak. I know. But there you have it. 

When it comes to “When” (if ever), there is surely no definitive answer. Sadly the only suggestion I have is to regurgitate the line you would expect, and say “when it is right, you will know it.”  Weak. I know. But there you have it. 

The best I can do is to relate our experience.

Neither Ann (my wife), nor am I, yet retired. Damn! However hopefully someday. But our commitments to careers stateside in no way deterred us when it came to making a decision regarding a place in Italy. 

I don’t know about most people, but I can say for myself that, on those occasions in life that require making major decisions, I have been pleasantly surprised by an uncharacteristic sense of clarity. “Uncharacteristic” because this is coming from a guy who over thinks absolutely everything. I’m referring to full on internal debates regarding life’s most mundane decisions. But the big ones? Those are easy.

For example, many years ago as a young college graduate / bachelor living in NYC I found myself in a funk. My job was getting routine and boring, and although I had dated a few different women, I became convinced that I might never find a person who would actually make a difference in my life. Then I met Ann. It hit me like a ton of bricks. Even though we would not actually date for several months to come, I knew at that very moment, unquestionably, that I had just met the most important person in my life. As I said, the big decisions come easy. So back to Italy (I know that’s an abrupt transition) but the place in Oria just spoke to us. It was easy to see ourselves living happily there.

So, even though it did not neatly fit into our current circumstances, we just knew it was right.

So when it comes to “When” I stick by my conviction that you will just know it. And the “When” may end up being a little today, but much more tomorrow.